Throughout life, we all have that one day that basically scares the shit out of us. That could be an interview for a job you desperately want, or maybe it’s waiting for an exam that’s keeping you awake at night. I’m actually writing this anxious as hell because I have an interview tomorrow which is, most honestly, scaring the hell out of me. I randomly thought today to write a blog post on ‘waiting for that one day’ for anyone, who like me, has a day coming up which is scaring them as much as this interview is me. When waiting for a specific day, I find myself doing things that take my mind off the matter at hand and I thought I’d write them down here too. So if you’re in the same boat as me, here are a few tips on what you can do when waiting for that one day! Because let’s be honest, sometimes life is full of nerve-racking shiz!
NUMBER ONE. Get excited. Instead of worrying about the waiting around and the actual thing itself, get excited for the moment when you’re done. When the thing you’re worried about has well and truly passed. I don’t know about anyone else, but I always plan what I’m going to do once – let’s say interview – has been done and now you have the rest of the day ahead of you. I normally go to Sainsbury’s and buy either a bag of cookies or a chocolate bar to enjoy with a cup of tea once I get home, or I make a plan to have a bath with a good ol’ bath bomb from Lush that same evening. Because if you get all excited for the moment after your interview, you might even find yourself not getting so anxious, but actually excited for it. This really works for me even if I just plan on getting home and reading my book. It’s always good to have something to look forward to!
NUMBER TWO. Be positive. This is actually one of my New Year resolutions for 2017. I realised throughout all of 2016 that being negative is so much easier than being positive. Sooooooo, when there’s something coming up that is scaring me to the point that I just can’t seem to focus on anything else, I try and think positive. Now, now, I know for a fact that if I was to have read something saying that ‘you need to be more positive!’ I would have instantly thought, ‘easier said than done’. I totally agree. Being positive is nearly as tough as getting out of your bed in the early mornings. But that doesn’t make it impossible. With that interview looming and the butterflies in your stomach going mad every time you think about it, think of just one positive you might get from the situation. Like, it’s experience. Personally, I’ve always struggled talking to people; my confidence has never been top-notch. So when I go to an interview, I know for a fact, whether the interview goes badly or amazingly, I’ll have gained some confidence from it. Positive. Try and be more positive, even if that is just by taking it sloooooowly.
NUMBER THREE. Do the things you love. I always find when I’m anxious or not necessarily in the best frame of mind, I do the things I love. I often turn to writing (which is exactly what I’m doing right now because I’m SO nervous!) or I open up my book and engage in a completely different world. And I don’t even think I do it to forget about the matter at hand, but I find when you think something over and over in your head, it genuinely does make you feel worse – so to have something that will truly take your mind off of it, to me is so so important. If you don’t really have anything that you can focus on; because I know so many people who find it so hard finding a distraction, do some window shopping! I turn to Pinterest a lot when I need a mental boost or some inspiration. I’ve actually been pinning a lot recently, so you can find all my pins here -> Pinterest <-
NUMBER FOUR. It’s gonna be ok. Trust me on this one, it is going to be ok, whatever happens. We all face situations in life that don’t just challenge us physically, but mentally as well. Just remember that even though now the whole thing seems daunting and scary, it will pass. Just like a storm… they pass eventually and you never know, you might learn something along the way. I’ve always been told that throughout life we will be asked to do things we don’t necessarily want to do, which I guess is true, but when you find yourself in this predicament, just remember it’s all going to be ok eventually. I can promise you that.
I hope this post has helped you in some way. It’s definitely helped me feel a bit better and I’m sure I’ll come back to it again when in need of a little confidence boost. As always, thank you for paying my blog a little visit and I hope I will see you again soon! Have a wonderful day my lovelies!
– Pat xx